Tip # 9 Dealing with Stressful Situations
Through my divorce, I found nothing remained the same. My home, my friends, my job, my boyfriends, dating, the list goes on and on. Every week, it seemed I was put in new and sometimes difficult situations or at least uncomfortable situations. Dealing with stressful situations was hard. Our thoughts become things that manifest into our lives and I was determined to assume control over my circumstances whether I was happy about the situation or not.
The Dalai Lama when discussing antidotes to anxiety used the following quote, “If there is a solution to the problem, there is no need to worry. If there is not a solution, there is no sense in worrying either”. This is such a great quote. We should all put it on a sign in our offices. If only it were that simple.
When I am faced with a difficult situation and feel hopeless, I do this quick exercise to change my energy:
- Remind yourself to stay calm. Absolutely nothing is unbearable if we stay in the present moment. Sit down and take a few deep breaths. If you are sitting at a desk at work, close your eyes and breathe. Staying calm in difficult situations will help you find solutions and think clearer.
- Ask yourself, “What do you desire?” You may not have an answer or an answer may instantly pop into your head and heart. By asking this, you are projecting out of your current situation. This question will help you look at the bigger picture for your life. Maybe the current situation is a stepping stone to get what it is you truly desire.
- Think of someone or something that you are grateful for. This is a wonderful way to change your energy.
- Write the answer to “What do you desire?” and “What are your grateful for?” on a sheet of paper. Say it out loud.
Do you feel better? Lighter? Ready to deal with the situation?