Learn “How to Date”
Tip #1 – Take classes or read some books.
If it has been a while since you “dated”, you may need a refresher course. Or, if you feel your dating is not what you like, get some tips. Dating has certainly changed in the last 28 years. That was the last time I actually dated. Today, women call men- they do not just wait for the phone to ring. This was unheard of 30 years ago. Some of my dates think I am not interested in them because I do not call them. And texting….well that does make everything easier, like telling someone who you really do not want to see them again. It is not personal and that may be an advantage sometime.
A male acquaintance of mine told me he expects his date to pay for dinner every 4th date! Who knew? Is this written somewhere?
So, my recommendations to get up to dating speed and save yourself some embarrassing moments:
- Read a current book on dating, there are many to choose from.
- Take some classes on dating, some local community groups give them.
- Start being comfortable texting your dates.
- Try to call your date; you would probably be surprised how much they would love to hear from you. This is still a stretch for me, but, I am trying.
- After a few dates, offer to pay for dinner or make him dinner.
It also helped to discuss my date with my single friends. This was really uncharted territory for me and for many newly divorced or separated women. It is like going through life without a rehearsal. You are going to make some mistakes and that is alright. With each new experience you will learn and grow.
Most important-Have FUN!
Do you have any tips to share?