Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness

Forgiveness is the key to happiness. Resentment, anger, and grief over past relationships hold a tremendous amount of energy. It is important to release the negative energy in order for more positive relationships to flow into your life. It is almost like creating a “space” for something or someone new to enter. Below I describe one technique I use to forgive and move on. This exercise can work not only for romantic relationships, it can work for any relationship that needs healing and closure.

There was one man I dated for several months. I felt the relationship was a convenience instead of a priority. The relationship did not progress. Every date was like the “first” date, no more no less. I used this exercise to get the courage to end the relationship and to move on.

In order to release myself and my energy from a relationship, I would write a letter to them. Sometimes it was just one letter other times six or seven. No one would ever see the letters. When I felt I wrote all I need to, I would follow the steps I list below. It provided closure and healing.

This is a powerful exercise.
1. Get a piece of paper and a pen. Sit in a comfortable chair in a quiet space. Take a few deep breaths. Write a letter to the person you need to forgive or the person you need to let go of. Take your time. Write your feelings about them; how they hurt you, how that felt, how you may have done things differently. There is no rule as to how long the letter has to be, keep writing until you have nothing else to say to them. When you feel you have written enough, at the bottom of the letter wish them well and sign your name.

2. Tear the letter up into small pieces and then do one of the following: a) Put them in a pan and burn them. Obviously, be very careful with this step. As you watch them burn say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed or at least wish them happiness b) Bury the pieces of paper in the ground. As you cover them with dirt, say a prayer for the person the letter is addressed to.

3. Repeat this as often as needed, until you feel you have forgiven and released the person. You know you have released this person’s energy when you no longer feel any strong emotion when you think of them.

How many letters did your forgiveness take?

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Sarah Stevenson
Sarah Stevenson
8 years ago

Dear Gloria,

I’ve been following your blog for about a month now and I think that you provide so many people with incredible advice and support!

Me and my husband we’ve been separated for over an year now, divorced only for about 2 months. I struggled a lot after the separation, especially since he was the one who initiated it. I thought that divorcing him wouldn’t be any different than the separation but I’ve been having some very difficult moments since the divorce. It is hard to accept the fact that with your marriage is over. Ever since, I’ve been looking for help and I found a safe place on to share my feelings. Besides that, I’ve been reading your blog for a month and I know that here I can always find a calm place which can help me hear my own thoughts. This is why I wanted to thank you for all the work you do. I must tell you that I feel like with each day passed, I am forgiving my husband for letting me go and this makes me happier !


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